Gaining clarity on wants versus needs will help you to strengthen your relationship with children.
And we know…relationships are the active ingredient to supporting children’s development and learning!
“But preschoolers’ ability to consciously control their thoughts, actions, and emotions is still severely limited, and quite often their knowledge about what they should do surpasses their ability actually to do it. They can be unable to do “the right thing.” ~ Philip David Zelazo, 2010
So what is the difference between a need and a want? Well, in this episode, I take three common situations where we might find ourselves struggling to determine, “Is this a need or is this something that a child wants?”
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Three main themes are explored in this podcast episode:
- Many times what we think is something a child wants, is actually something they need
- It’s our job as brain architects to recognize the difference between wants and needs
- The younger the child, and the more they are exposed to early childhood stressors, the more likely a child’s response is a need vs. a want
“Executive function develops slowly over the course of childhood and well into adolescence, and many healthy children display the kinds of difficulties associated with damage to prefrontal cortex. For example, they may know rules and be able to repeat them, but nonetheless have considerable difficulty putting them into practice; they may be rigid and inflexible; they may be impulsive.” ~ Philip David Zelazo, 2010